Month: February 2020

Even in difficult economic times, NASCAR often has a higher weekly attendance than other major sporting events. But its beginnings had nothing to do with attracting fans.

In Neal Thompson’s book Driving with the Devil: Southern Moonshine, Detroit Wheels and the Birth of NASCAR, he describes the forerunners of the sport as “a bunch of motherless, dirt-poor Southern teens driving with the devil in jacked-up Fords full of corn whiskey.” Those first drivers had a clear purpose: to outrun the authorities. It wasn’t a spectator sport.

Neither is the Christian life. While our works do not save us—only God’s grace does that—James reminds us that faith without action is “dead” and “useless.” (James 2:17-20) When the apostle Paul was literally knocked down by the Truth, Jesus told him to get up and “go into Damascus. There you will be told all that you have been assigned to do.” (Acts 22:10) The apostle Peter cautions us against being “ineffective and unproductive.” (2 Peter 1:5-8)

 So, what are we to produce? According to Jesus himself, disciples: “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.” (Matthew 28:19,20a)

Today in America, Christianity often looks more like a spectator activity. Once or twice a week, members go to be entertained by lovely music, receive personal inspiration, and visit with congregational families, as if that were the entire purpose of being a Christian. Not only are we not supposed to be spectators, Matthew sharply warns us not to turn our faith into performance for spectators. “Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 6:1) What is the purpose of your faith?

“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do”  Ephesians 2:10

Would You Do This Job?

    Imagine you’re the wife of the leader of an organization. Your husband not only puts in his time at the office, he’s on call 24/7. Every other person in the organization is at liberty to call him at any time—not just about the organization, but to help them handle personal crises, arguments, medical emergencies, etc. It won’t matter that your children have a ballgame or a recital, or that it’s your wedding anniversary. He’ll be expected to respond, and you may need to go with him, even if you’re both exhausted.

     Of course, there will be fun events, too. You’ll be invited to weddings, baby showers, birthday celebrations, and other parties given by the people in the organization, even if your only contact with them is at official organizational meetings. It can be awkward to refuse and expensive to attend, so you’ll need to be both a diplomat and a financial genius.

     You’ll also be expected to supplement your husband’s job skills, and you’ll probably be asked to fill in for others in the organization when they’re sick, on vacation, or just tired of doing their jobs.  In fact, you might be asked to do jobs that the organization never managed to get anyone else to do. It’s no wonder very few unmarried men are hired for your husband’s position!

     Unfortunately, you will not be receiving a paycheck for this work. Yet, in spite of your volunteer status, you’ll be evaluated along with your husband. You’ll be judged, not just on your work for the organization, but on your manner of dress, your attitude, the way you spend money, cook, and keep house. Oh, and you’ll be expected to raise children who are more obedient than the children of the other parents in the organization.

     And, if you manage to do all that, you must remain humble in spite of your superhuman accomplishments.

    You’d have to be crazy to take a job like that. Or you’d have to be a pastor’s wife.

~dh

I know a wonderful young minister who is ashamed of his family. At least that’s how they perceive his advice to them to “get their act together.” Even as he leads a growing congregation with grace and kindness, his lack of compassion toward his parents and siblings threatens to permanently alienate them. Only God knows how much of his admonition is motivated by sincere concern for his loved ones or to what extent personal pride is the driving force. Either way, a close look at the pastor’s family reveals some cracks in the foundation. That doesn’t fit with the common supposition that those behind the pulpit come from a tradition of faith.

There is certainly pressure to “look the part.” Just as the angel of death favored faithful Jews in Egypt, most people expect financial, marital, and mental woes to pass over the homes of Christians today. And surely a pastor receives some special dispensation of spiritual power greater than what ordinary laypeople are granted. We want the preacher to be better than us. It’s hard enough to be told things we don’t want to hear when it comes from one granted moral authority through decades of obedience, one whose proven legacy of faith stands solidly behind him.

But those notions are based on the false premise that we can somehow deserve to rank anywhere among God’s people, or that, once justified by Christ’s sacrifice, we are miraculously freed from the consequences of our less-than-ideal upbringing, immature decisions, and traumatic life experiences—all influenced by an adversary who shames us into hiding the fallout for fear of being judged unworthy.

The enemy has more reason to destroy families of those in ministry than to bother with those who aren’t opposing him. The truth is we are all unworthy, each subject to the same failures as everyone else. Pretending it’s not so is foolish and dangerous, feeding faulty expectations that ultimately result in loud cries of “hypocrite” from anyone looking for a reason to debunk the Christian faith.

Scripture contains multiple examples of family failure across successive generations, even among those chosen to carry out God’s covenant promises. Abraham gave in to his wife’s insecurities to produce an heir through a surrogate, whom he cruelly exiled after his wife gave birth to Isaac. Isaac and his wife each favored a different child; the resulting rivalry nearly ended with one brother killing the other. Isaac’s son Jacob then favored one wife and her children over the other wife and her children. Through the same favoritism Jacob nearly cost his son Joseph his life. Dysfunction Junction!

If being reared in or parenting an ideal family is the standard for serving in ministry, then King David, a man “after God’s own heart,” didn’t qualify. David’s oldest son Amnon raped his half-sister Tamar and later tried to snatch the throne from his father. It didn’t make David less deserving of his station as Israel’s king and spiritual guide because it wasn’t dependent on David’s family having it all together.

Want a modern-day example? Billy Graham was arguably the most effective evangelist of all time, but he was absent from his family for months at a time and surrounded by staff, even at home. That led to a lack of intimacy and abandonment issues, especially for his daughter Ruth. Four marriages later, she learned to understand and forgive her father. God blessed Billy Graham with a worldwide ministry, and in her own ministry Ruth speaks personally and compassionately to people in need of the same grace on which she and her father relied.

Whether you’re on the inside looking out or the outside looking in, charity (love, grace, understanding) begins at home.